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You write the plan. You mean it. Three weeks later you're back to chasing whatever is loudest.

Most of us were never taught how behaviour actually changes. We were taught to set goals, then left to wonder why wanting it badly enough was never a method.

You cannot run a project, or a career, on willpower. What you repeat is what you get.

James Clear's Atomic Habits is the most practical model of behaviour change I've come across, and his line is the one that stuck. You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.

A habit is a behaviour you've repeated enough times that it now runs without you deciding. Not a personality trait. A repetition.

Every habit runs the same four steps, whether you chose it or not. Cue, craving, response, reward. Which means you don't fix one by trying harder, you change one of the four steps. Each has a law.

Take a habit most of us keep meaning to build, planning tomorrow before you finish today.

Make it obvious. A habit needs a trigger. Most good intentions die because nothing fires them at the right moment. "After my last meeting, I will plan tomorrow."

Make it attractive. We repeat what feels good now and put off what pays later. "I have to plan tomorrow" becomes "I get to switch off, tomorrow is sorted."

Make it easy. The harder something is to start, the less often you start. Three lines for tomorrow, not a full replan.

Make it satisfying. What feels good gets repeated. The trouble with project work is that the payoff turns up months later, so you need something out of it today. You close the laptop knowing tomorrow is already sorted.

Missing once is an accident. Missing twice is a new habit.

What I find most useful is what this means for a team. If a habit is a loop, a team habit is a cue everybody shares. Escalation at the same two minutes every morning. The decision written down in the room rather than chased afterwards. A ten minute handover call before someone goes on leave. None of that needs a culture programme. It needs a cue, a small version, and a reason to repeat it.

Notice what's missing from all of it. Willpower.

I've put the whole model on one page, written for project work, one law at a time, with an example of how each law lands. The sheet does the explaining, so keep it for when you want the detail. The title says project managers, though it applies to anyone with a hand in delivering something.

That's the framework, and it holds up. What follows is mine, from delivery and from watching people start habits and quietly lose them, and I think it sits underneath all four laws.

Picture a house that badly needs painting. Patchy in places, tired in others, the sort of thing you notice every time you pull onto the drive. Then it gets done, and it looks brilliant. It lifts the whole street.

Now try to picture the before.

Most people can't, not properly. You know it was rough, in the way you know a fact, but the image has gone. Without an old photograph, it isn't there any more.

What's going on is simple enough. We don't judge anything on an absolute scale. We judge it against a reference point set by recent experience, so once something improves, the reference point moves up with it and the improvement stops registering at all. It becomes the new normal.

And your memory doesn't hold on to the old one. You're left with the new normal and no picture of where you started. I've started calling it the fresh paint effect, because it works for you and against you in equal measure.

Going up, it's the best thing about compounding. The gym gets easier, the weight goes up, and the fortnight where it felt impossible is gone. On a programme, a team fixes how problems get raised, and six months on nobody can remember the weeks when everything landed on a Friday afternoon. Each improvement becomes ordinary, which is exactly what frees you to build the next one on top of it. That's how people end up somewhere they could never have planned their way to.

Going the other way, the same effect quietly takes you apart. Miss a session, skip the handover call, let a decision go unrecorded, and the new standard becomes the standard. This is why never missing twice matters more than it looks. Miss once and your reference point holds, so getting back is easy. Miss twice and it starts to move, and once it has moved far enough you can't picture what good looked like clearly enough to aim at it. Standards rarely collapse. They fade, and people stop because they genuinely can't see what they've lost.

It happens to whole teams too. Spend three years on the same programme and you absorb its norms without noticing. How quickly problems get raised, how decisions get made, what people let slide. It becomes simply how work is done. Then you move to another programme, find it runs nothing like that, and you can't say when you picked any of it up. A good culture makes you better. A poor one does the same in the other direction, and neither announces itself.

So that's the model. Make it obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying, and don't miss twice. Everything you repeat, at work and everywhere else, is built out of those four steps, whether you set them up on purpose or not.

The fresh paint effect sits alongside it, and it's worth knowing about because it can play tricks on you. Once you know your reference point keeps moving, you can see what's actually in front of you, decide which habits you want to keep, and pick the next one worth repeating.

Full credit to James Clear. The four laws are his, from Atomic Habits, and he put them out there to be used.

MAKING IT HAPPEN: Your Weekly Strategy

Pick one behaviour you want to be known for. Something small enough to do on a bad day.

Write it as one line: after ______, I will ______. Keep the second half to two minutes.

To sit with: which of the four laws your last failed habit was missing. It's usually obvious, and it's usually the cue.

To do: before you start, write down where you are today in a few lines. What you find hard, what you avoid, what takes you longer than you'd like. Put a date on it and diarise a reminder to read it back in six months. That page is your before photo, and it's the only defence you have against the fresh paint effect.

WORTH A READ

When Making It Happen was still just an idea about writing up what real delivery is actually like, Paul Simms was one of the first people I shared it with, and he told me to keep going. He's been in the background ever since, someone to think out loud with when an idea isn't landing. This week he published his own first essay, using HS2 to make the case that sponsors aren't customers of a programme, they set the conditions it succeeds or fails in. Congratulations to him for getting it out there. More people who have actually done the work should write about it, because what gets learnt on the ground rarely travels beyond the people who were standing there. Worth a read if you work anywhere near major programmes. Have a look.

CHEAT SHEETS

A small example of the fresh paint effect, from me. A couple of months ago there were no cheat sheets at all, just the writing. There are now 38, and I had to count them, because I couldn't have told you from memory.

Three went up this week. The Atomic Habits one above, one on how emotional intelligence gets decided in the three seconds before you respond, and one on why the better AI gets, the easier it is to stop thinking about what it hands you.

They're all in the free library, which is here. Save the link and grab whatever helps.

Share this with someone who's been putting in the work for months and can't see that anything has changed.

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Have a great week and speak soon,

Bilal